Updated: Feb 20
Usually when people are struggling in their relationships, it's because they feel dissatisfied with them. That sounds pretty vague, but it’s true.
Whether it be with a significant other, friend, family member, etc.. Many people feel like those in their life aren't meeting their needs.
I've felt this way before, too.
In some instances, there really is one party in a relationship that isn't putting the effort required to sustain it.. so the relationship suffers. If you are on the other end of this, I completely understand why you would be upset.
But other times, something different is happening...
People are disappointed because the other person isn’t making them feel how they want to feel.
What can happen is we end up putting someone on a pedestal they should never ever get put on…
The pedestal of our Savior.
We look to this person to make us feel good. To make us feel beautiful. To make us feel important, loved, worthy, etc.
We look to them to fix the broken pieces of us with their love.
But that isn’t a task they can accomplish.
Because that’s only something God can do.
No matter how amazing the person is, if we put them in the role of God, we will end up disappointed.
They were not created to complete us- God created us so He could complete us.
They were not created to heal us- God is our healer.
They do not hold our identity or our worth- God does.
We have to be careful not to put people in the place of God.
He wants that spot.
He also wants your relationships to be successful and if anyone is in His spot, it won’t be.
So, if you find yourself dissatisfied in a relationship, make sure you are deciphering between whether the relationship is unhealthy or if you’ve put expectations on someone that they can’t achieve.
You might just be surprised.
~Kelli Bachara, The Unraveling Blog