Be careful what you tell yourself when you mess up. The words, “you always do this, you always fail” will stick with you and can prevent you from trying in the future.
Be careful what you tell yourself when someone disappoints you. It’s easy to fall into a belief that no one is trustworthy and decide close relationships aren’t worth the risk of being hurt.
Be careful what you tell yourself when you hurt someone else. Because you will, you’re human after all. Grace and forgiveness are a gift we need desperately.
Be careful what you tell yourself when you don’t get invited. If you begin to believe no one wants you around, that belief will impact your ability to connect with others and you might find yourself very alone.
Be careful what you tell yourself when life doesn’t go your way. A victim mentality that says “nothing good ever happens for me” can prevent you from seeing the potential in your life.
Be careful what you tell yourself when someone else is better. You weren’t created to be them. Comparing yourself to others only steals from the gifts you do have.
Be careful what you tell yourself when you win. Pride comes before the fall. Arrogance often leads to destruction.
Friend, be careful what you are telling yourself, because you hear your words more than anyone else’s on the planet.
And us humans have this way of believing what we hear after we hear it enough times.
Take inventory of the thoughts that are running through your head the most.
Ask yourself if these thoughts are really serving you well.
If not, it’s time to start challenging them. It’s time to disagree with the lies that are keeping you stuck in self-destruction.
Life is already hard enough without you belittling yourself.
There are already a million voices pointing out where you don’t measure up.
Don’t let your voice be another one.
Be careful what you tell yourself.
Because eventually you’ll start to believe it.
But the good news is you can also tell yourself the truth about who you are.
And start to believe that, too.
~Kelli Bachara, The Unraveling Blog