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Being a Deep Thinker can make you Feel Misunderstood.. But it’s also Beautiful.

A deep-thinker isn’t necessarily a over-thinker.

They certainly can be, but deep-thinking and over-thinking aren’t the same.

Over thinking tends to be a negative and obsessive type of thought process, where people ruminate over and over on certain thoughts, situations or potential events that could occur.

Deep thinking can actually be a positive and innate part of a person’s personality.

A deep thinker is someone who looks beyond the surface. Someone who sees things from multiple perspectives.

Someone who will take the time to consider something or someone before labeling it.

The thing is, in our culture, deep thinkers often feel misunderstood.

They don’t look at anything with a surface level view. They like to dive in.

That might mean asking a lot of questions in order to understand what makes something or someone tick.

I’ve met many deep thinkers who feel lonely. They lack the deep connection they desire.

Deep thinkers usually don’t enjoy small talk, but not everyone wants to go into the depths they do in conversations.

Deep thinkers feel unsettled when they know they haven’t gotten to the root of the problem.

They know there is a larger issue at hand than what is being presented.

Deep thinkers don’t usually have the luxury of “ignorance is bliss” because their brain doesn’t work that way.

They think. And then they think some more. And then the look through a different lens and think some more.

Sometimes they wish they weren’t that way. They would love to be able to shut off their brain.

Like other people do.

But the thing is, deep thinkers are crucial to our world.

We need their insight and perspective. We need their well thought out view points.

We also need people in the world who are willing to get to the heart of things.

People who don’t just want to pretend everything is okay, but will acknowledge what’s really unfolding.

Deep thinkers may feel misunderstood. They may not be the life of every party. It might be hard to make super close friends.

But deep thinkers are also the ones who can go into another person’s pain and grief.

They can love someone who the rest of the world rejects because they see more to the person’s story.

They can make someone finally feel really heard and known.. because no one else has spent the time wanting to or trying to understand them.

I’m thankful God made deep-thinkers.

They are a beautiful and necessary part of humanity.

If you are one of them, know that God made you the way you are for a reason.

And His reason for you is good.

~Kelli Bachara, The Unraveling Blog

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Kevin Wenning
Kevin Wenning
21 févr.

Short and sweet and very true. It is very hard to find true friends who are willing to have the kind of conversations I want to have. And then I have to be aware of when I'm going past the point where they're comfortable as well; lost a couple of friends that way. The true friends know those depths can never be satisfied and they smile and hug me and love me anyway. Now being married to someone who finds deep conversations taxing...that's a challenge. It's also a blessing to see how not everyone needs to know the essence of things in order to get on with life and be happy. Also, chalk me up in the category of one…


lounis photography
lounis photography
25 nov. 2023

The last sentence tho!

”I’m greateful that God made Deep Thinkers”

it goes against everything that a Deep Thinker is. We do not believe a god and other fictional stories made by Men.


WOW! I never mentioned this "deep thinking thing" to anyone because I knew they wouldn't understand. I'm 92 years old and it's always the same question: I want to know why, why and why! I never take things at face value. I always look for proof!!!


William Sherman
William Sherman
16 févr. 2021

Insightful and very informative... Also, It's very well to not comment if you are drunk. See above.


Patricia Smith
Patricia Smith
11 juin 2020

Wow. Is that y I ask so many questions? People want to quick go on with there thought but I need answers before they can. Why go on if you don't have all the information right? LOL that's just my thought. Thank you very much

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