Updated: Oct 27, 2020
My husband is amazing.
He loves and adores me, and he helps me be a better person. He’s also a great dad.
I should mention, I really love him, too.
In fact, it’s easy for me to say “I love him more than anything in the world.”
But that’s the problem.
It’s really, really easy to love my husband more than Jesus.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s a great thing to have so much love...
But it’s also problematic.
Because I rely on my husband in ways I should rely on the Lord.
I go to my husband for comfort, peace and protection before I do from God.
And even though he is so reliable, he is still a flawed human.
He can’t fix my soul in the ways I’d like him to.
He doesn’t know the plan for my life.
He isn’t my creator.
To put it simply: he cannot be in the place of God for me.
The truth is, I’m a better wife and human when I love God more than my husband.
Because if God is my first love, I’m being filled with the kind of love that pours into every aspect of my life.
Including my marriage.
When I love God first, I am so much more patient and kind.
I am quick to forgive and I am less self-focused.
I‘m still not perfect, but I’m more like Him.
Yes, I should absolutely love my husband well, but I also need to focus on loving God with all my heart, soul and mind.
That’s His greatest commandment for a reason.
The more we love God, the more we can love the people around us.
His love is incredibly impactful like that.
So to those of you who are married, getting married or even considering marriage in the future, do yourself a favor...
Focus on loving God most.
It’s actually the best thing you can do for your marriage.
~Kelli Bachara, The Unraveling Blog