I’m not interested in your perfection, or your tied-with-a-pretty-bow life, because I can’t relate to it. You can’t relate to my mine, either.
Because it’s not real. It’s not that we don’t have great things happen in our life sometimes. We do. Sometimes life is good and beautiful and feels great.
However, suffering and hardship.. it’s universal. There is a spectrum of it, but usually there is something a person is struggling with at any given time.
But a lot of the time, we don’t see that in others. And honestly, it’s not a bad thing that we aren’t all airing our dirty laundry to the world all the time.
Gosh though, this world sometimes feels like a bunch of people comparing these false images they’ve created for themselves with other people’s false images. I’m guilty.
And you know what?
It’s no surprise people feel SO lonely.
Even when they are around other people. They feel unknown.
Because you cannot genuinely connect with someone else’s fake. Just like they cannot connect with yours.
Maybe it’s just me, but it feels like we are a culture of “make your exterior look great, and hide the ugly under the rug.. hopefully nobody will look there.”
What do you think would happen if we lifted the rugs a bit? What if we let go of the facades?
Suddenly, a friend who has a “ picture perfect family” could actually open up about the hard season she is in.
That person you know who climbed the ladder and has an incredible career could actually share how driven into the ground they feel.
Maybe you could tell your loved ones, who have no idea how much you are struggling, that you are.
Maybe we could share that sometimes, we feel so insecure.
I know it sounds like a downer, but do you know how much more easy that is to connect with?
Do you know that people can relate to that?
Not only can connection happen, but we are also opening ourselves up to potential help and encouragement.
I think the world would be radically different if we could start being more authentic.
We wouldn’t feel so alone.
We would feel so much more known.
And we would know we aren’t alone. We would see that we all have our junk.
Let’s start, you and me, with ourselves. Let’s be more honest.
Not with the whole world, but with those in our spheres.
Our vulnerability will lead the way for others. And connection will happen on a deeper level.
You might just find that the honest truth isn’t actually a horrible thing to discuss, but instead, it’s the thing that helps you feel more human and connected than ever before.