• Kelli Bachara

Phones- The "Being Present" Killer

Updated: Feb 8, 2018



So I'm sitting on my couch reading the comments below a controversial post in a mom's Facebook group (some of these moms are ruthless and I can't stop looking even though I'm anxious and sweaty as I read them) which is something that takes up way too much of my free time (just ask my husband). During this time my son who is playing on the floor crawls over to me, pulls himself up on me and smiles while he hits me with the remote control. I smile and say "hi buddy", then go back to looking at my phone. After a few moments he sits back down and plays.


I don't know what made me realize it but it's like I get smacked in the face and think "what are you doing?! Your baby just came up to you for attention and you didn't give him the time of day because you were too busy reading mom #1 calling mom #2 a witch (or a similar word) because they disagreed on child vaccinations." (😂)

Anyways, then I came to realize that this probably isn't the first time this has happened... today. The guilt sets in. My son is only 9 months old but I'm sure he can sense the difference between me patting him on the head and saying "hi" compared to when I get on the floor and fully engage and play with him. I know I won't be perfect, but I do want to be that kind of mom.

Because if I don't give him my undivided attention, I can't be surprised or upset when in a year from now (and for the rest of his life) he ignores me while on an iPod, iPad or cell phone or whatever electronic there will be. I'm showing him by example what is normal.

I'm not saying we can't go on our phones but is there anyone else out there who wants to work on being more intentional with there little ones and giving them more of the attention they want (and need)? Maybe we can be accountability partners 😏


....I can also hear my husband (lovingly) say "how about you try that in your marriage too" (there is a chance we have had this conversation before). I suppose it works in all relationships in our lives! Intentionality and quality time is one of the greatest gifts we can give someone we love {not to mention that we aren't missing out on beautiful moments with them, too}


Ps. Don't worry, I wrote this while my son was napping because the irony of writing this while he was awake was too much!Welcome to your blog post. Use this space to connect with your readers and potential customers in a way that’s current and interesting. Think of it as an ongoing conversation where you can share updates about business, trends, news, and more.



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