Updated: Nov 10, 2020
This is not going to be my best “Christian” moment here, folks.
But sometimes I wish the Bible said some things differently.
Like I wish it said “be nice, but feel free to give the people who have hurt you a piece of your mind.”
It doesn’t, though.
A really hard pill to swallow in life is knowing someone has done you wrong AND also knowing they most likely will never take responsibility for it.
We may not get the apology or validation that we want and even deserve.
It can be maddening, really.
And consuming.. in a really negative way.
To the point that it steals from our life and takes our peace and joy, because we are so focused on them.
So, there is a choice we need to make:
Are we going to keep fighting for revenge and vindication?
Or are we going to let God be the judge?
I know how good it would feel to hear them say what they did was wrong.
I know you might want them to feel the grief and pain you experienced.
But even just wanting that takes up so much of your own time and energy.
It’s like bricks you are carrying around. Because resentment, bitterness and anger are so, so heavy.
You might not get the apology.
You might not get the “I was wrong” that you’ve been wanting.
But you will get a just God who will take care of what needs to be taken care of.
It might feel like the “stronger” thing to do is get back at a person.
But really the strongest and hardest thing we can do is hand it over to God and let Him sort it out.
Don’t waste any more of your precious time carrying around their wrongs.
I know they hurt you, but don’t let them hurt you anymore.
Release it over to the Judge Himself, so He can free you from that burden.
~Kelli Bachara, The Unraveling Blog