Seven years ago I met my husband for the first time at the most romantic place on earth, Buffalo Wild Wings, at Mall of America.
The thing is, if you knew me at this time you would know that I had absolutely no business getting into a relationship.
I was a HOT MESS.
I had open wounds from prior relationships and had a history of poor decision making. I was lost. I didn’t have a whole lot of self respect, but did have a lot of shame.
I know what they say about relationships. “You need to love yourself before you love someone else.”
“You need to heal your wounds before you bring your baggage into someone else’s life.”
I get these things, and in many cases agree.
But sometimes things don’t go “by the book” with God.
The rules on relationships aren’t always one size fits all.
Because God sent me this man that day, and it began a healing process for me.
Don’t get wrong, my husband didn’t heal me.
But if it weren’t for him I don’t know that I would have ever gone to Jesus to get the healing I needed.
And that’s why I don’t ever tell people things like, “don’t get in a relationship” or “you need to be alone for awhile to figure yourself out.” (Although sometimes that is definitely what’s best!
Because sometimes God sends us someone who will be a part of our healing journey.
Maybe not always a romantic partner, but He does send people who work as a vessel for Him.
He sends people who are not only an example of His love but who will also continuously point us back to Him.
Sometimes it’s the most unlikely people at the most unlikely time.
But that’s God for ya.
His plans are so much bigger and better than ours.
And He uses His children to make a lot of those plans happen.
All I’m saying is, don’t limit God.
If I would have stuck to what I thought I “needed to do” and what the world told me, I would have missed out on the greatest blessing of my life.
The worldly “rules” don’t always mix with God’s plan.
So in all things, follow God’s nudges..
He might just bring something or someone who will change your life.
~Kelli Bachara, The Unraveling Blog