I’ve heard it said before that the sting of a break up can feel as hard as the grief of a loved one dying.
The difference being that in a break up, someone intentionally chose to leave.
Break ups can come with waves of abandonment, rejection, and feelings of being unworthy.
It can feel like your whole world is crashing down because the person you loved most and held dearest no longer wants that role.
You don’t know who you are without them.
Friend... I want you to know you are still as valuable and complete without them as you were with.
It’s hard to believe when someone becomes such a huge part of your life.
But your identity never was found in them.
I also want you to know that God has not abandoned you. He hasn’t taken the best thing of your life from you.
If the other person does not see you as “the one”, they are not your “one” either.
The pain and devastation you feel right now will change.
It will hurt, bad, for awhile. But it won’t always feel like this.
You may not believe it now, but there will come a day that you feel okay again.
In fact, I’ve seen people who were sure they’d never be okay after a breakup eventually find gratitude that it happened.
Because they were able to see a different plan for their life. The plan God created all along.
A plan of healing and redemption.
Just wait, friend.
Let yourself grieve while also holding on to the hope that this isn’t all. There is a lot more to this story.
Rejection hurts so bad. But it’s nothing God can’t heal.
I pray you will feel a tiny seed of hope being planted in your heart right now.
I pray you remember your purpose in life hasn’t changed a bit. You are still a part of God’s great plan and there is a unique purpose for you.
Let yourself weep and mourn, and then keep looking for Him in all of it.
He’s there, holding you up.
Helping you keep going.
They may have left, but God never will. He always will choose you.
It won’t always feel like this.
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3
~Kelli Bachara, The Unraveling Blog