If People have Made You Feel Replaceable, They aren't Your People.
Updated: Sep 27
Living life feeling replaceable is exhausting.
You are keenly aware that someone else could come along and take your place.
So other people can feel like threats to you..
Because what if they get chosen over you?
You don’t want to feel like this. It certainly doesn’t feel good to try to push other people away from your relationships.
But you also don’t know how else to make sure that you get to keep your place.
The place you so desperately want.
As a spouse, or dating partner.
As a friend.
As a employee.
It’s so unfortunate that the reason you feel this way is because life experiences have shown you that perhaps you are replaceable.
Friends have dropped you.
You’ve been cheated on or left for someone else.
A position that was supposed to be yours was given to someone else.
Maybe you’ve just never felt like a first choice.
Yeah, sometimes it makes sense why people feel replaceable.
I just want you to know, though, that a good relationship won’t lead you to walking on eggshells and wondering when the time is coming that you get tossed aside.
A good friendship is secure enough to hold more than two people, so if others join, it doesn’t mean you are cut out.
A committed partner will not be looking around at who they can put in your spot.
People who value you will not just throw you away.
I also want you to know that you need to believe you have value.
Because of your nature, because you were made in God’s image, you are uniquely you in a way no one else could ever be.
It’s impossible to replace you, because there is only one of you.
One special, beautiful you.
Regardless of how you’ve been treated in the past, I hope you’ll come to understand that you weren’t made to be replaced.
You were made with a purpose that is only yours.
No one can ever take that from you.
~Kelli Bachara, The Unraveling Blog