You Can’t Make Everyone Happy, and it’s Not Your Job to.
“You can’t make everyone happy, and you can’t do everything right.”
This has been my motto for the day, because I’ve seen that I am not, in fact, making everyone happy, and definitely not getting everything right.
It feels like such a blow when people notice our flaws, doesn’t it?
It can feel like such a failure when we mess something up.
And gosh, it can really sting when people don’t like us.
Maybe it’s just me, but when I start to feel attacked, confronted or not liked, insecurity arises.
In my head yells a voice saying “you are just not cut out for this.”
And all I want to do in these moments is stop everything and go hide and be alone, so I don’t have to think about or deal with any of it.
Sometimes it feels like it would be so much easier to not go after our dreams, not put ourselves out there, and just stay hidden.
Because hidden feels safe.
I can’t make mistakes when I’m not doing anything.
People can’t be critical of me if they can’t see me.
I won’t be able to hear anything anyone says if I’m alone in hiding.
Yep, hiding feels safer.
Maybe you felt this way before, too.
Maybe you feel it right now.
The truth is, it would be so sad if we hid.
If we quieted ourselves so that we couldn’t be heard or seen, just to appease others.
It would be devastating if we squashed what is inside of us to avoid confrontation.
Because there is a plan and purpose that comes with each of our lives.
And no where does God say, “this will be easy” and, “they will all like you.”
He doesn’t say, “change yourself so they are happy with you” or, “be quiet so they don’t get upset.”
We can’t make everyone happy and we can’t do everything right.
And you know what? That’s not our job.
Our job is to be obedient to God’s calling, even if that means people rolling their eyes or saying mean things.
Our job is to accept grace that is given to us when we mess up and keep going after it.
Regardless of our imperfections or other people’s opinions, God’s plan still stands.
No one else gets to determine if we should or should not do what we are called to.
So, if you had a day like mine, I want to remind you what I’m reminding myself...
You weren’t made for things of this world, or opinions of this world.
You were made for Him.
~Kelli Bachara, The Unraveling Blog