You Shouldn’t Have to Fight to Keep Your Spot in Someone’s Life.
Do you know that you are the only you out there?
God made billions of people but none like you.
I know you are probably rolling your eyes as you read this, but it’s true.
You can’t be a child of God and not be special and unique.
You also shouldn’t have to feel like you need to prove this inherent worth you have from Jesus, to others.
The people around you shouldn’t make you feel like you need to, either.
Yet, time and time again you might find yourself feeling like you need to “perform” or “impress” others to stay in their life.
You may feel like you need to be someone you aren’t so that you can be liked.
You may find that just being you doesn’t seem to cut it for them.
It’s a shame you would ever have to feel this way.
We are called to be kind, loving, and to serve others.
But we are not called to change ourselves for their liking.
They didn’t create you.
And the very, very difficult truth is that if you feel like you are constantly having to fight in order to just stay in someone’s life..
That relationship is not based in love anyway.
Love is not self-seeking.
Love does not say “I want you to be like this... so change for me.”
I’m not talking about a person setting boundaries with you (I think that’s important)...
I’m talking about someone in your life intentionally making you feel inadequate as you are.
That’s not love.
So, take a look at your relationships.
Notice the people in your life who you know see you as you, and love you for it.
Of course you are going to have flaws, and a friend may even call those out (in love) to help you.
But again, you shouldn’t have to fight, and change yourself to keep your “spot” in their life.
You have so much value.
You don’t need to spend your life trying to prove that.
~Kelli Bachara, The Unraveling Blog